Goddess Gestating Goddess© Lord Coltrane

© Lord Coltrane: Goddess Gestating Goddess

The Divine Mother lives in Every Woman

The Goddess, or Divine Mother, has been revered for thousands of years in various cultures and religions.  In India they say there is nothing higher than the worship of the divine mother. She is the source of true power: love, creation, nourishment, and beauty.  This feminine creative power lives in each and every one of us.

In honor of Mother’s Day, let us pay homage to the goddess within.  Let us revel in our shared divine essence, and discover how sexy motherhood can be.

Bringing Sexy Back

In the Tantric tradition, the goddess or divine mother, is all about attaining and absorbing pleasure in its purest form – without judgment or attachment.  When you are filled with pleasure, you are so damn sexy.

For Mother’s Day, I encourage you to give yourself the gift of reclaiming your sensuality. 

How many times have you labeled yourself with a one-dimensional definition of “motherhood?” The one that sacrifices her self-care because she is busy cleaning up diapers, dropping the kids off at school, taming a tantrum, or grounding a teen; the one who sacrifices her pleasure because she is too exhausted for really great sex; and the one who sacrifices her desires because little Bobby needs another Lego set.  Sound familiar?

It is time to bring beauty, pleasure and desire back into your "haute mamma" lives.

© Lord Coltrane

© Lord Coltrane: Subject: Professional Runner, Mother of 3

Finding Pleasure in the Pain

Not to sound too S&M-ish, but all you have to do to find pleasure and joy in all things (including a dirty diaper) is to surrender all control, let go, and enjoy the pain!  This, of course, requires learning to be in the present moment, fully loving each and every second of the pain (or the pleasure), quieting the ego mind, and finding gratitude for the experience. 

Do you have loads of laundry to finish?  Do you have a deadline at work, but volunteered for the latest field trip to the zoo? Are you having a creative block from the monotonous meals of organic mac and cheese? No problem.  Just follow these four basic steps to loving pain, and you'll be thrilled by the pleasure it brings!

1. Thank the Universe for the opportunity to find pleasure in the most mundane of duties.  (Ah...what a big, huge, luscious mound of laundry! Thank you!)
2. Tell yourself that you love this exact moment, as it is precisely what you need to soften the rough edges of your being. (I LOVE feeling the warmth of cotton and the fresh smell of clean laundry. It's just what I need to calm my mind. I can't wait to dive in and get it done.)
3. Loosen up! Make your body movements languid, not stiff.  Toss your hair, lick your lips, and sway your hips!  Do a slow dance.  Your laundry won't judge. (It feels so good to dance with something clean and warm, that flows with my own rhythm, and doesn't step on my toes.)
4. When you are done with your task, acknowledge your success. Pat yourself on the back. Treat yourself to something special (Bathe in Your Own Beauty). Take a deep breath and enjoy the moment. (I did an amazing job with that pile of laundry, I'll have a glass of wine now.)

Try this with any unpleasant situation and you'll find it might ease the pain.  You might even find the whole thing pleasurable.  Motherhood provides us with ample opportunities to create pleasure out of pain.  If pleasure equals sexy, then you are well on your way to being a "haute mama."  Happy Mother's Day.