"Your Love's Got Me Looking So Crazy Right Now..."

-Crazy in Love, Beyoncé

The Sixth Sensation: Fantasy & Instinct

In honor of Valentine's Day and the opening of 50 Shades of Grey, let's explore our sixth sense and learn how using it can lead us to being so crazy in love.  Using our sixth sensual sense; imagination, fantasy, instinct can heighten our sensuality and deepen our relationships.

First of all, fantasy is a normal and healthy part of all of our lives.  Children adore fantasy stories because it helps them with concepts of good and evil, right and wrong.  They use their imagination to play in worlds unknown to them. They create every moment as they please, and use their instincts to stop at discomfort.  Adults respond the same way, identifying with various Archetypes that give us a glimpse of our own personalities.

Let's stop pretending that we don't like a little sexual fantasy now and then too. The book, and now movie, 50 Shades of Grey would not have sold millions if we weren't so interested or a little bit curious. 

When in comes to our intimate relationships, fantasy introduces variety.  Our brains stop obsessing for a moment about what our bodies look like, or if what we are doing is "right."  Instead, we focus on what we secretly covet and desire to be played out. We might try on an alter ego or ask our partners to try one on.  We use our instincts to understand how far we'd like to push our edges. 

In our attempt to awaken all of our senses; touch, taste, smell, hear, see, we must also exercise our sense of fantasy to be exceptional lovers.

Exceptional Lover

Exceptional lovers understand how to fully give with pleasure, and how to fully receive with pleasure.  They are 100% present and aware.  They allow their partners to feel safe enough to surrender, to enjoy, and to play.  They spice things up with a little variety.

This Valentine's Day, give yourself the gift of being the lover you've always wanted to be.  This means stretching your boundaries and exploring the secret fantasies you have.  A huge population of women have already proven to be curious about a little kink based on the popularity of trashy novels (50 Shades grossed 1.5 BILLION dollars in sales in 2010!), and pole dancing is practically the new Hip Hop (a pole goes up in a studio every twelve hours somewhere in the world according to United Pole Artists USA).  So why not turn on your inner stripper for the evening and give your partner (or yourself) a little tease?

The Strip Tease

The A-B-C's of Strip Tease is easy as 1-2-3.

1. Wear a button down shirt or a t-shirt that you can easily pull over your head.  Under this top, wear your favorite lingerie piece, thigh high stockings, and some killer heels.  Don't complicate things too much with a clothes that are too difficult to take off.  Layers are fun, but if you are first timer, I'd stick to the button down and keep it easy.  A little surprise is always fun!
2. Find S L O W music that you love moving to.  Start off against the wall and S L O W  W A Y  D O W N as you move your body in any way that feels really good to you.  Touching your skin and your hair (again S L O W L Y!) gets you into your body and out of your head.  And remember ass out always!
3. When it feels right, start unbuttoning your shirt taking off layer after layer of clothing (as far as you choose).  The key is to move SO  S L O W, making eye contact (if you are doing this with someone) as each piece falls to the floor.  You can be a playful vixen or a lusty lover, you choose!

© Lord Coltrane

When you enjoy every moment of your strip tease, your lover will also.  Your lover will be so crazy in love and honored by the exquisite unveiling of the most precious gift that is you.  Happy Valentine's Day!

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