"I hunger for your sleek laugh and your hands the color of a furious harvest.
I want to eat the sunbeams flaring in your beauty." - Pablo Neruda
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I am honored to be a part of Bernadette Pleasant's Emotion in Motion Blog Tour with a series of like-minded, and equally passionate, women bloggers who enjoy diving into the complicated, yet glorious truths about the feminine. Our assignment was to write about a given emotion. I was given the choice to write about LUST, or what it means to feel FREE. I happen to believe that in lust, there is freedom. So, of course I choose both.
Lust and love are two different things. You can love your children, your Jimmy Choos, or your pets. You can lust after the cabana boy, the hunky movie star, or a 4-carat diamond ring. Love is often about the giving, while lust is often about the wanting. But in romance, we need to experience both love and lust in order for our relationships to thrive.
I love lust. Lust is hunger that keeps our romances fresh. Lust is drive that sustains our romantic love. Lust is the sensory pleasure we get from erotic anticipation. It sets free the emotions of ecstacy, rapture, euphoria, ravishment, and delight. These feelings are life enhancing, as they release chemicals in our brain like dopamine, serotonin, and adrenaline that fuel our sex drive, and give us that natural emotional high.
Being lusty in love is hard for many women. We think we need to choose between the saint and the sinner, the mother and the whore, or naughty and nice. Maybe it's time to take a stand and be both. We need both to set us free.
“Eroticism is one of the basic means of self-knowledge, as indispensable as poetry.” Anais Nin
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What is freedom anyway? Freedom to me, is about being your authentic self without shame or judgement. Freedom is being a whole woman without the rules that keep us from expressing our true nature. In our society, it is often our eroticism, our sexuality, and our lust that is kept in check. Worldwide, woman are more objects that equals, so it is extremely confusing when our sensual desires demand a strong presence in our lives.
"And the day came when the risk to remain tight in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to bloom" - Anais Nin
To deny your natural erotic being is to imprison yourself in a fortress of hunger without tasting, of drive without a goal, of lust without love. Our sacred/sexual selves need to be nourished so that we can feel the depths and heights of love, so that we can be fully alive. Expressing our inner and outer emotions through motion can be a key to our freedom.
1) Move Your Body to Sensual Music: Move with the intent to find where eroticism or lust lives in your body. As you move your body to your chosen song, focus your mind and your breath on your idea of lust. Gently touch that body part, and with your breath give it a kiss from the inside. Continue to move with deep expression surrounding that body part. There is no right or wrong answer. For me, lust lives on the right side of my neck.
2) Deep Breathing with Erotic Fantasies: Wherever you are, simply close your eyes and start to breath from the top of your head to the base of your feet. First focus on the top of your head with an image of your lover or a fantasy lover. As you begin to move the breath down in a circular motion to your mouth, neck, chest, etc., allow your imagination to flourish into a full erotic scenario. By the time you get to your feet, you can plug the energy all the way down into the earth and back up through your body. This breathing technique simulates the flow of Kundalini energy.
3) Surrender to Self-Pleasure Often: As much as you can, you should understand what your erotic body enjoys. Explore a self-pleasure technique everyday. Don't get caught up in the goal of having an orgasm, simply enjoy what feels good to you. You might find that baths give you erotic pleasure, try out a new sex toy, read some erotica and notice when you get wet with arousal, oils are amazing. Give yourself permission to explore what fills you up with pleasure each day. If you do climax each time, enjoy that too!
4) Sign up for Bernadette Pleasant's Emotion in Motion Workshop on January 4th here to really master how to move emotions through your body! I have witnessed first-hand Bernadette's radiance, guidance and power. She is authentic in her teaching, and transformative in her dance. Her workshop on Emotion in Motion can truly set you free.
Bernadette Pleasant, the creator of Emotion in Motion has developed a safe and sacred day-long journey that engages the mind, body and soul. Weaving together the use of music, percussions, meditation, and hands-on healing, her January 4th workshop will create an impactful, life-changing experience for each participant! You can purchase tickets here or participate in her latest giveaway.
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